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Mort, Where do I begin. I could write a novel about the last two years. My wife and I have been to an awesome Christian councilor. For over a year we began to open up and really tried to speak our minds with each other. Until this year, what we together have realized , is that our marriage was failing long before that. You know the part of our wedding vows that say "for better or for worse," well we are facing the worst now, and we are separated. We never imagined an affair as being the worst. We figured maybe an illness or death, but not an affair. I am a fire fighter and work two jobs and have done so for almost 20 years now. Being away from my family is hard enough and now dealing with separation, wow! Two years ago I had an affair. I've prayed for so long for God to keep my heart focused on my wife. We were slowly growing distant from each other and I was feeling as though I had no hope. After the affair was ended, what I realized was the problem wasn't completely my wife. It was me! If We could only turn back time and never make the mistake I made would be awesome, but if I hadn't of faced my battle then, where would I be now. I have gained a completely new love for my wife. For the ones of us that have children, we know that as soon as that child is born that there is an instant love. Mort my love for my wife now is greater than I could have ever imagined, even greater than the love of my children being born. Don't get me wrong here because my children are what help me through our separation. I pray everyday for my wife to come back and for our relationship to be renewed. The one thing I have against me, is that my wife is the type of person that when the trust is broken, it's gone. Mort, I have honored your request to not forward any of the emails you send, to her. I know that there is always hope. Your emails have really helped me to be more understanding, and if my marriage doesn't make it, the knowledge that you have shared with me and everyone that gets your emails, is priceless!! I can't change the past, but I can learn from it and become a better man. Not just for my family, but for everyone that crosses my path. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and I look forward to receiving your emails everyday.

Mort, Yes I have benefited tremendously from your emails. I am a Lone Ranger in my situation. Your emails have given me hope that I can save my marriage. My husband out of the blue told me he did not love me anymore. I was devasted, shocked but mostly hurt to the very core of my heart. We had problems and tragedies but I never ever ever thought he would stop loving me. I look for your emails everyday to give me hope. Everything in those emails hit home every time I read them. I read them over and over again. He is not and has not cheated on me, he says he just doesn't know what he wants anymore. He says I am the best thing that ever happened to him. It has been 3 months almost to the day that he told me this news. We have made some progress. I tell him all the time I am not willing to give up on "US". He caught me crying last week and he asked "what are you crying for?" - I wanted to say are you for real but I didn't. I will not give up, even though there are days when I ask myself how do you go on with him feeling this way, will he ever come back to "himself". I will tell you I think there are some issues going on with him that are not helping. He can be miserable at times and I am not alone with this description. My kids say it all the time. We are worried about him. On the flip side, he can be the most kind generous person and always willing to help someone out. Again, I do feel we have made progress but sometimes I feel like I am a stranger in my own home. I can't do the tele boot camp because there is no way I can participate every week due to work. I have almost ordered your tapes so many time, but I keep going back to those emails for support. I will end with I know over the years I have not reacted well to our disagreements. I have said things I regret but it was my reaction to his attitude. I pray daily that I will have the strength to fight and that we will save our marriage. I cherish your emails and truly believe they are helping me keep the strength.

I have not purchase any materials yet but am seriously considering doing so. I am so grateful for all of the stories, advice and testimonial . My husband has depression and I suspect is seeing or sleeping with other women which had been the toughest pill to swallow. I have realized through Morts emails that I have to change my attitude and try a different approach rather than being angry and telling him how hurt I am! I need to try a much more positive approach!

I'm learning what a covert abuser is , that I've been a victim & that after 30 years I need to go on alone. This program & posts are great. I had high hopes & would recommend it. Just unfortunately I had the wrong mate. Thank you. God bless