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Thank you for your kind words and daily emails. Your concept is wonderful. However living in Asia with an Asianhusband I think I have hit a wall. Society is so different from America. Your daily emails were very helpful. I would have liked to learn more about your theories of how to be good marriage partners. Thank you.

After 40+ years of marriage, the revelation of multiple affairs during the past 30+ years, made me wonder about the future of our family. Making the decision to work through forgiveness and try to stay married, I began receiving/reading Mort Fertel's marriage emails. I have been trying to incorporate some of the principles, specifically 'Talk/and Touch Charges' and finding activities to do together. My husband and I have begun taking daily walks and I try to be intentional about having short positive verbal interactions and also administering loving physical gestures throughout the day. The results are mixed, (this morning a surprise kiss on the check while he was reading the paper elicited a 'What ?') but we are beginning to reconnect.

I would recommend for everyone to to get Mort's Program, even just to receive his emails you will gain a new and truthful perspective of marriage. YOU WON'T REGRET IT!!!

On July 4th I found out that my husband of 12 years, the man I have been with since I was 15 years old was having an affair and said he was in love with this girl. I was devastated, but knew I had to save my marriage. At first I couldn't understand how he can be in love with her and just fall out of love with me. I begged him to stay and give me another chance. He said he would stay for now and figure things out. The next day I went on the Internet and started looking for help to save my marriage and to save me, to help me understand. I was feeling so broken. A few days later I found Mort program. I asked my husband to try it with me and he said he didn't want to cuz he didn't know if he wanted to save his marriage yet. That's when I signed up for the free emails and started employing them. Everyday those emails gave me a reason to fight and stand strong. In August I signed up for the lone Ranger track and have been following the program since. I'm not saying that I haven't had my far share of set backs, finding out my husband was still cheating on me serveral times after promising to stop, but without this program I know I wouldn't of been able to come back from those terrible days. It is now November and my husband is still here. Granted he says he still loves this girl and still doesn't love me and unsure about the Marriage, but he said he wants to give us another try. When Mort says they will come up with a lavious story and make you the bad guy he was right on the money and boy is my husband sticking to it. Whenever we have a "relapse" he always goes back to the story and it's always the exact same. You should of been a better wife. Why couldn't you have changed before I cheated. Ect. Ect. Now I don't know how this will end but what I do know is that without Mort support and his program I would have given up on my marriage and my family. Mort has taught me the importance of having good Morals and values and most importantly fixing what's wrong with me. In the beginning of all this is couldn't understand how he could do this to me because I was a great wife. Through Morts program I realized I wasn't so great of a wife and had become a not so great person through many negative experiences within our marraige. I had given up on the process of marraige. Now 5 months later from the day I found out I can say I am back to the person I love and the person my husband fell in love with 20 years ago and im not going to lie I had to look up the definition of Morals and values because I didn't believe I had any anymore, but the good news is I found them. 😊 At one point I had felt so lost and weak for so long I was scared that I wouldn't be able to fight anymore. That I didn't want to fight anymore. I was just so tired. I told myself that I had given it my best shot and if he didn't want me by now then he never would and if I found out he was still cheating I wouldn't ask him to stay or give me ANOTHER chance or even fight. At this point his happiness was more important then our marriage and I wasn't going to be the cause of his unhappiness anymore. After all he was still my best friend. So when the day came and I found out that he in fact still was having an affair. I looked in in the eyes and said it's OK. I love you but if being with her makes you happy then it's ok. I told him I'm not leaving this house and I would be here if he wanted to come back. That he was the love of my life and above all he deserved to be happy. I remember thinking how proud I was of myself because that was the hardest thing I have ever done in my life and yet I felt so strong. I can still remember his face when I stood up and said I understand why you did it and I am truly sorry I couldn't realize how I made you feel earlier and the most important thing to me is your happiness. I then gave him a hug and walked out of the room with minimal tears. After leaving the room I went to the bathroom and can I say I LOST MY STUFF not because he was cheating and I was loosing my husband but because of how proud I felt of myself and the process I had to go through to get me here. I knew in that moment that I had changed and became a person to be proud of. After about 10 mins of balling my eyes out my husband came in and told me he was sorry and he wanted to give our marriage a 100% fighting Chance and he would tell the other girl he was done. He has also told me that I am so strong and have changed so much. That he is so proud of me. Like I said before I don't know if he is still cheating, nor do I care because I can see the changes in our marraige and in our friendship. I know we will make it through this and be stronger for it and it is all thanks to Mort. I hope my store was of help to anyone dealing with infidelity or in the lone Ranger track. Ps. I will write again soon.

He provides sensible advice and strategies and helps explain things from both sides providing support.