Thanks Mort!
Mort,
Thank you so much for your Emails and your great advice.
My Marriage of 21 years is currently a mess. In July 2016 my wife and I underwent a crisis that exposed 20+ years of neglect, control, manipulation, unloving and just plain rotten behavior on my part. I had not treated my wonderful wife the way a man should treat someone he claimed to Love more than anything. I treated her like a possession and not a valued one - like a servant.
When news of her wanting a divorce came out I was destroyed. The wheels came off and I went full suicidal and lost all sense of myself. Once I was able to pull myself together - largely due to the supports around me. (My wife, kids, Wellness Advocate/Pastor, a few good friends, Spirituality, God) I also pursued medical help to deal with years of steroid use and depression.
Now I am trying to understand and be the man I needed to be for the last 20+ years. My wife and I are still living together and I am doing all I can to improve and salvage the damage I have caused, but my wife is deeply hurt and the only option she sees is freedom and divorce. I have placed the majority of my struggles in God - he is the only being that help me become the man she needs and deserves and can help soften her hardened heart.
I have seen the miracles around me, and putting men like Mort into my life is one of them. I am truly grateful for your insight and help Mort. Thank you for helping me and so many others.
God Bless!