This helped a lot
I think the knee-jerk reaction is to walk away when things have gone South. This helped me examine my own behavior and how it may have affected where things had come to. I didn't tell my spouse about the emails or the program because that would have blown up in my face. It provided helpful and realistic tips to repair, rebuild, and enhance a relationship I feared was forfeit. Now, a year later, my spouse's behavior is like Scrooge on Christmas morning. Better than good. Better than the good old times, in fact. We've both changed for the better is how it really worked.